Sometimes a pity party seems like the easiest option.

Do you ever look at what you do and ask why? You put in the effort but you’re not seeing the results you hoped for.

Maybe you post every day on social media, but your following is still tiny compared to others.

You work additional hours but you’re still skint.

You are always busy, but it makes no difference. What is the point to it?


We have all been there…

I was talking to J last night. A few years ago, I was having a pity party. Thinking back, I can’t remember whether one of the lessons had run over and made the whole evening seem stressful, or if I’d got to someone’s house and they had wanted to do something completely different to what I had planned. If they had been out when I arrived, I can’t honestly remember now but I was sulking!

At the time I was driving a little Nissan Micra. I loved the appearance of the car, but things were rapidly falling apart with it and draining every penny I had.

I was in debt. I’d dropped my mobile and cracked the screen. Even the dog only had 3 legs… (I love Snowy to bits and her 3-legged bounce is part of what makes her, her).


But I was throwing a monumental pity party for myself.


Ignore what others are doing and look at what you have achieved.

Look at the gratitude you are receiving. Sometimes the message saying that their child is looking forward to seeing you seems insignificant. But think about it. A child is looking forward to learning! That is quite a statement.

Maybe you are in the early days of your business, and you only have one or two students. Everyone starts somewhere.

What can you do to find the third? One of the best things you can do is to put your heart and soul into being the best possible tutor that you can for the ones that you do have.



Because, then you will feel good about what you are doing. They will think you’re amazing and praise you/ thank you. Making you feel even better, love even more, what you are doing.

They will tell others how fantastic you are. Word will spread.

At the same time, you will feel more inspired. You won’t care if your Facebook post only has 3 likes because you are starting to enjoy tutoring again. And that’s 2 more likes than you had last time.

Building a business, is hard work. There will be days when you want to spit your dummy out. Jump up and down and have a toddler tantrum. Have a pity party.

Those days will happen less and less, I promise.

Like I say, like everyone, I’ve been there. I’ve persevered and I’ve come out the other side.

If you want company as you go through the highs and lows of building your tutoring business, why not join us over in the Clara James Tutor’s Group. Chat to myself and others about how they are getting on growing their business. Join our co-working calls and monthly Q&A’s. Receive a new piece of training each month focusing on growing your tutoring business.


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But take the time to appreciate how far you have come and the little words of thanks that you receive, because sometimes they will be what’s needed to steer you back on course and help you to remember why you are putting yourself through this.

It’s been a tough couple of years for everyone. You’re not alone and if you need help, please do reach out and ask.

Hand on heart, I will always do my best to help.


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